if you’re attracted to people of the same gender, homophobia affects you
it’s not some kind of exclusive gay-only term that needs to be replaced because bi people exist, it already includes us because it refers to prejudice against same-sex attraction/relationships and the people who experience them
stop valuing grammar over actual, living nonbinary individuals, holy fucking shit
If people want acceptance you have to be nice about it
Black lesbian relationships pose little threat to “self-defined” Black men and women secure in their sexualities. But loving relationships among Black women do pose a tremendous threat to systems of intersecting oppressions. How dare these women love one another in a context that deems Black women as a collectivity so unlovable and devalued?
Except in cases of rare cis enlightenment, there are only cis people who don’t know anything about biology and cis people who parrot eighth grade biology at trans people, uninformed assholes and willfully ignorant pissfrogs.
Why does every casual cis person to stumble along assume they know more about a subject they probably haven’t even thought about since freshman year of high school than women whose lives revolve around it, and who routinely have to educate their own doctors?
Do they assume everything they learned about playing house in kindergarten is all their is to marriage? Are they confused when players don’t tear the flags off each other in the Superbowl? Do they get into their first college calculus class and scream “This is bullshit! There’s only plus and minus and times and long dividing!” No. They realize what they were taught as children is a simplified version of the world. So why is it they can’t remember that simple truth when talking to trans women about our own biology?
I’m genuinely curious, then. Educate us when we don’t know, instead of screaming about how we’re just a bunch of ignoramuses. Cause last I checked, just saying “I’m right because shut up” doesn’t really prove anything or explain to the other person WHY they’re wrong.
Well bless your heart! The sum total of human knowledge spread out before you on the internet in an easily-searchable format, but like a child too spoiled to microwave their own cup of soup, you demand I put aside my exasperation and exhaustion and needs and spoon feed you a lesson in biology.
First and foremost, let’s look at comparative credentials, which is really what my post was about. Original “ask” is from someone who is 15, male, and admits on their front page they are “lazy and stupid.” Hexgoddess is an adult woman whose lived experience revolves around this topic. I am a woman in her early thirties with an anthropology degree, who has been writing about trans experiences and theory off an on for over ten years. We are experts. We don’t HAVE to make some elaborate arguments to dismiss the uninformed ramblings of random internet trolls every single time one of them pipes up with a half-assed scientific “theory” or “brilliant” observation. We’ve heard them before, many times, and they’ve been thoroughly debunked. Sometimes on this very blog.
Now, if you want to actually get into the specifics of why this fifteen year old child was wrong, let’s start with biology does not end at genetics. Genetics are one aspect of biology, but just like blueprints are not a house, your DNA is not a perfect map of what you end up with. Genes are instructions for what your body SHOULD do, but what your body actually DOES depends on hormones, environmental factors, available resources, stress, health, and many other aspects.
Secondly, XX is not inherently female, and XY is not inherently male. In humans, any number of developmental abnormalities can lead to someone with XX chromosomes appearing for all purposes to be “male” as we understand it, and likewise someone with XY chromosomes developing into what our society considers “female”. In birds, it’s the exact opposite: XX results in a male, and XY a female. In some insect species, males only develop when there’s a lack of a second sex chromosome. And these rules get even messier when you start looking at specific species that can switch their sex, or whose lifecycle runs through periods of male and female or neutral. Chromosomes are not some magical crystal ball that tells us a definitive, clean, perfect definition of a creature’s sex because…
"Sex" is a loosely defined term that biologists are still arguing about. If you’ve been seeing the internet buzz the past week or two about the discovery of an insect where the females have the penis, you’ve heard that one branch of biologists have recently defines “sex” as referring to the size of an organism’s gametes (it’s sperm or egg), and “female” refers to the members in sexual reproduction who possesses the larger gamete and hence invests more energy into reproduction. This is only one definition; there are many others, and the ones most scientists use don’t revolve around external genitalia, internal genitalia, or chromosomes. Because biological and social sciences are about tendencies more than concrete definitions. By the gametes argument, creatures without gametes (such as worker ants, postmenopausal women, anyone born sterile, and yes, even trans women) are sexless/members of a third sex. Meanwhile, anthropology defines sexes more loosely, based on social roles, presentation, secondary sex characteristics. Ask five different scientists from five different disciplines to define sex, and you’ll get five different answers.
Finally, why is it so imperative for cis people to have some trump card to throw out and insist “AHA! I caught you lying you awful liar!”? Trans people experience and interact with their society as members of their gender. The ones who pass for cis are treated like any cis member of the gender. The ones who don’t are treated worse. If a trans woman lives her life as a woman, what is the motivation in trying to find some loophole or exception to say all the misogyny and struggle she encounters as a woman don’t count? It’s about power, and the ability to dismiss our concerns and tragedies without ever examining them. Trans women get raped? That doesn’t count because they aren’t “really” womne. Trans women get paid as badly as cis women? That doesn’t count because they aren’t “really” women. Trans women want to stand in solidarity with other women against the broken system? Well they can’t, because they’re not “really” women. It’s not exposing any half-assed “truth” or insight. It’s a tool of power and humiliation, wielded by a privileged group against a minority already experiencing overwhelming violence.
So there you go: There’s your explanation why a 15-year-old’s immaculate analysis of biology was dismissed without critique by women who actually know what the fuck they’re talking about.
I do not honor unfollow requests.
You chose to be on a public blogging site.
You may block/ignore me all you wish.
fandomqueer seems to be unaware of the block feature. Also this person is known for being a self admitted cisgender bias prick who’s a sad excuse for an activist.
Cisgender hating piece of shit. Wrong.
Lmao what? Cry me afuckin river good god. There is a thing called respecting privacy and personal space which amazingly still exists online unless youre an asshole apparently
I fucking hate the assertion that if you’re on the Internet, people can do whatever they want to you no matter how uncomfortable or unsafe it makes you feel. This is like following someone around the store or a park when you clearly hate their existence, and when they ask you to stop you go “You decided to be out in public so I won’t stop following you. Just ignore me, because of course refusing to look at me will cause you to forget that some creepy fuck who hates you is following you around watching everything you do and then sometimes taking to the Internet to talk about how awful whatever you’re doing is.”
Like what the fuck. People shouldn’t have to hide themselves just to avoid being stalked by assholes and creeps.